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It shows you're confident and want to meet them. If you can't think of anything, then don't message her. Follow up her thanks with a question about her or something of the like. The people who got responses were the ones who said something about my profile. That way you can get an initial read of attraction before investing the time in reading her profile and crafting a custom message. It really depends on what kind of girl you're going after.
It will also scare off any girls who would be put off by meeting someone in person, which is a good thing; you don't want to waste your time on them. Give some info about yourself for a question you ask. If she isn't giving you anything you with with, not worth it. I automatically delete anything in my inbox that just says "hey" or "what's up" or mentions my appearance as being anything other than "cute" or something equally nonsexualized.
I suggest that this is the time you ask for her phone number (asking for her digits without even having plans make her feel like you are pushy/desperate).
Don't forget to comb over her profile (and questions like OKcupid has) to see what she's all about.
I am really bad with first messages for online dating.
I am not a fan of one liners or anything cheesy like that. " I generally do not know what to write after that. Female here with enough online dating experience that I am considering co-authoring a book with a friend.
The answers are always so short and feel rushed which alwayss makes it feel like you have to lead or the convo will end quickly. If you do you'll be one in a billion more messages that is referencing how she looks. Find a single thing to talk about, either in the body of their profile or in one of their pictures. Then end with an invitation to get coffee some time. " This gives me something to respond to an a potential conversation and also shows you took the time to read my profile as opposed to a stock message you send to everyone.
Write an open ended statement about something you relate written in their profile and ask a question about that or something else that stands out to you. Don't make it any longer than a few shorts sentences. That is nice in theory, but in practice the response rate from women even on well crafted messages that reference something specific in their profile is pretty low.
I avoided this at first to steer clear of the "interview" tactic but I guess online is a different ball game.
It's important to come off well in your writing (which since you hang out on reddit I'm assuming you're good at or at least working on) your words need to feel personable like you're chatting together rather than writing a letter.
Finally, try to ask her out on a date within a few messages (less than five) if you REALLY like this girl and think it can go somewhere, have an interesting date prepared ahead of time, Huge Bonus points if it's an activity she loves.
Then ask a question that makes her think and chances are if she likes your profile she will at least respond to the first question.
When if/when she responds continue the conversation by asking 2 or 3 questions about herself, for every one question she asks about you.